passion for Grief & Loss work began in early 2005 while working
as an intern at a women's recovery program here in San Diego.
There I ran a weekly Grief & Loss group. It was then that
I learned that grieving was about much more than death - it was
about a loss and/or change of anything that was honorable and/or
dear to you:
person or relationship (death, divorce, break-up, move, etc.)
Time (due to procrastination, addiction, depression, etc.)
Health (illness, loss of body part/use, etc.)
an integration of the Kubler-Ross 5 Stages of Grief (DABNA) and
Dr. Barry Green's Holistic methods,
I developed a Grief & Loss healing process that is designed
Acknowledge what you have lost,
- Connect to how it has affected your beliefs about yourself,
life, and the world, and
- Consciously heal what is naturally coming up inside of you.
In brief, the 5 Stages of Grief are:
of the time when we have lost something - or when something has
changed - we are unaware of these stages; of what we need, or
how to take care of those needs.
loss can bring confusion and lack of motivation. It can bring
bitterness, resentment, and sadness. It can cause us to want to
"pretend" or "forget" it ever happened. Sometimes
it can bring all of those feelings at once.
is common to fluctuate between the different stages. Through the
Grief & Loss work that we do together, you will be able to:
Be conscious of which stage you are in,
- Be conscious of what's happening and what you're feeling
- Experience congruent and practical methods/exercises to work
through those feelings,
- Learn what you need specifically to take care of yourself during
your grieving process, and
- Get to the final stage of ACCEPTANCE/RESOLUTION.
Through my experience, one of the strongest stages is of BARGAINING/BLAMING.It
is a very debilitating and frustrating stage as people tend to
try to go into the past and either bargain or blame about how
things could have been done differently. This is where most people
tend to get stuck. It can feel helpless and overwhelming. It is
natural to look to someone to blame, or to play the "What
if..." game. Sometimes you blame and punish yourself. It
is at this point that methods of "release work" is used.
is when the integration of holistics and traditional therapies
is very powerful: Release work. Release work is using your voice
and body to express thoughts and feelings in a safe and dynamic
way. There are many different methods - all of which are designed
to allow you to experience and process out whatever is needed.
This has a mental, emotional, and physical effect on a person.
It can also sometimes have a spiritual effect.
When we feel angry, stressed, hurt, scared - any imbalance - we
do not just hold it in the mind. We hold it in the heart, stomach,
neck, throat, shoulders, etc. Hence, incorporating both mind and
body modalities and practices allows you to truly work through
your loss in a holistic, profound way.
it takes is a desire to heal. And sometimes all it takes is DISCOMFORT.
I have found that the more uncomfortable a person is, the more
motivated they are for change.