specialize in healing childhood trauma and learnings that may
be causing adults to feel depressed, anxious, and/or overall blocked
from living a fulfilling life. I do this through the 5
Stages of Healing, a holistic process created by Dr. Barry
Green. I have chosen this path not only because of the specific
training I have done, but mainly because of my own healing.
is my feeling that almost all childhood trauma can heal through
a holistic grief process. Using an integration of the Kubler-Ross
5 Stages of Grief (DABNA) and Dr. Barry Green's Holistic
methods, I developed a Grief & Loss
healing process to support you in truly moving through the
children of childhood trauma, you learn defense mechanisms in
order to protect yourself. Sometimes it is humor, sarcasm, acting
out, isolation, or something that allows you to exist with the
pain, shame, hurt, and anger that is created as a result of the
trauma. This defense mechanism turns into a numbing process, almost
a false sense of latency, where you almost "forget"
or are "over" the trauma.
is usually the first stage of the Kubler-Ross' 5 Stages of Grief:
some point in life, survivors of childhood trauma may hit a threshold
- where you can no longer deny the pain you experienced. This
is usually when you will start to feel the other stages of grief
(anger, blame, sadness).
likely, here is the place you will want to seek support.
CONNECTING the Childhood Trauma to Adulthood
trauma is not healed, it will usually show itself in adulthood
in different ways: relationships, career, self-worth, choices,
etc. Any type of trauma can create negative or dysfunctional old
learnings. Basically, the old learning
is carried into present life and usually stays with you until:
You gain awareness that the negative message is there, and
2) You take the steps to unlearn it and relearn what is true and
healthy for you.
is an OLD LEARNING?
old learning is a message or story about who
you are, what you deserve, and life in general. They are called
old learnings based on the belief that we are not born with these
messages. Rather they are learned based on our experiences, allowing
you to trust that they can be unlearned and more positive, healthy
messages can be learned.
For example, if a child is physically abused they may learn the
are not lovable
- You are not good enough
- Your feelings are not important
- Don't trust other people
my experience, an old learning can be created as a result of either
following or purposely going against an old learning you saw in
a person when you were a child (parent, guardian, brother, sister,
example, if you watched your mother keep her feelings inside you
may either learn to "Keep Your Feelings Inside" as well,
or you may rebel and do the complete opposite, making it a point
in your life to "Express Your Feelings".
once you become aware of the old learning there is natural pendulum
swing from being in the old learning, and then completely rebelling
against it. For example: If the old learning is "Not Good
Enough", when buying into the old learning a person
may appear down, depressed, and actual have thoughts and feelings
of worthlessness (passive). When the person rebels against
the old learning of "Not Good Enough", they swing to
the opposite and and get angry, hostile, and determined to prove
and make sure people know they are indeed good enough (aggressive).
overall goal of the 5 Stages of Healing is to find the balance
between buying into and rebelling against the
old learnings. In essence, being able to own what is true for
you (I am good enough) in a grounded and healthy way.
RELEASING the Childhood Trauma (and the Old Learnings)
emotional traumas are held in the body. This is especially true
when the trauma was also physical or sexual. This is primarily
where the holistic process comes in - releasing the trauma emotionally
and physically, using various exercises and methods with the body